The Mental Load
Holiday Mental Load: Why The Autumn Pile Up Lands On You
The holiday mental load starts in October. Costumes, Thanksgiving lists and Sinterklaas poems all run through one brain. Here is how to put some...
The Mental Load
The Mental Load Hiding Inside A Garbage App Notification
The mental load is not the bin. It is every invisible yes you absorbed quietly. Here is how one garbage app notification became a...
The Mental Load
Sunday Evening Dread: Why the Week Ahead Feels Like a Wall
Sunday evening dread hits when you plan everyone’s week alone. Here is why the week feels like a wall, and a ten minute way...
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The Mental Load
Harvard Just Proved Your Mental Load Follows You To Work
You closed your laptop after the meeting and could not tell anyone what was actually said in it. Not because you were not listening....
The Mental Load
Breaking the Habit of Fast Email Replies That Hide Anxiety
It is August and everyone around you is still in holiday mode. Ice creams. Late bedtimes. That loose, nobody knows what day it is...
The Mental Load
The Mom Who Replies To Every Class Email In Thirty Seconds Is Not More Organised. She Is More Anxious.
You know the one. The class email lands, and before you have even finished reading it, she has replied. Warmly. Perfectly. First. Again. And...
The Mental Load
Why You Cannot Leave The House For One Night Without A Three Page Manual
You are trying to leave the house for one evening. One. And somehow it is 11pm the night before and you are typing. Who...
The Mental Load
Why Asking For Help Still Lands Back On Your Plate As More Work
You finally asked for help. You handed off the task. You said the words out loud. And somehow, three days later, you are still...
The Mental Load
The Pandemic Showed Everyone Your Mental Load. Then The World Went Back To Normal. You Never Did.
For about five minutes in 2020, everyone could finally see it. The mental load. The invisible juggling. The thing you had been doing alone,...
The Mental Load
You Became The Default Parent And Nobody Held A Vote
He is sitting right there. On the couch. Fully capable adult, eyes open, phone in hand. And the kids walk straight past him to...
The Mental Load
Why The Worrying Counts As Mental Load Too And Why It Never Gets To Clock Off
You already knew about the lists. The calendar. The knowing which child needs which form signed by when and where the spare batteries live...
The Mental Load
Why Summer Holidays Feel Like A Mental Load Emergency (And Why You Are The Only One Who Noticed)
School ends on a Friday and by Monday morning you are already exhausted. Not from doing anything dramatic. Not from a single enormous task....
The Mental Load
The Conversation To Have With Your Partner When You Cannot Carry It Alone Anymore
You have had this conversation before. Sort of. It went something like: you got frustrated, you said more than you meant to, they got...
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Hi, I'm Wendy.The mom in your corner.
A late-realized AuDHD mom in a blended family of seven, writing the posts I needed when I was crying on the bathroom floor. Every post here is written by me, from real life.